Health, self-development

Self talk

Take a few moments and check in with yourself.
How did you treat yourself today? On the outside, as well as on the inside.

Did you give your body some breaks, some rest, where it could regain the energy spent during a busy day. What did you do for your body to stay healthy and feel good?
Some movement, a bubble bath or a nice foot massage?

As important as taking care of our body, is taking care of our inside, our mental health, our heart and soul. What is it you did do for your inside? Meditation, a walk in nature, some reading?

How is your perception of other people, compared to how you see yourself?
Probably you are way harder on yourself than you are on other people.
What is it you think of yourself, how do you talk to yourself.
Try to reflect on that for a day, write down how you speak about yourself. Phrases like “silly me” or “sorry, I am an idiot” are more common than you might think. Write the thoughts and phrases down to remember and read through it at the end of the day. ALERT – You might be shocked.
When I first tried that I was absolutely outraged by myself. There was not much loving kindness involved  in my self-talks or let’s even call it self-judgement, and oh my, what a strict judge I was.
And this made me become the prisoner of my own thought punishments.
For my own standards I was never good enough, fast enough or worthy enough. What stunned me most, was that I actually thought I had a good opinion on myself until I looked closely. The truth I found there left me speechless and made me reflect on what it was that I judged so harshly in my behavior, in my looks, in my profession, in my being.

Writing down my self-talk and the thoughts I had about myself really opened my eyes. I still do that “exercise” from time to time to check-in again and to work on my self-love-ability.

If you feel like you could need a little more self-love from time to time, I can warmly recommend looking on the inside as closely as caring for the outside. I know it might not feel as good as a spa day at first, it might feel more like work, but I promise you, when the work is done, you will be left with the warmest feeling for yourself.

self-development

Time

It’s a strange thing. What is it that determines the rhythm to our routine. What is it that tells us to wake up and go to bed. What is it that tells us we ought to eat, study or take time for our family dinner?
It’s the constant ticking of a clock. Tick. Tock. Tick. Tock.

There are days when it feels like time doesn’t go by and where we want everything to be faster. More consumption, more excitement, more, more, more.
There are days when we feel like we’re running out of time. Like time was sand and it gushes through our hands, no matter how tight we try to hold it together.
And there are moments when time stands still when the clock stops to tick for a bit, while we watch the most beautiful sunset, or kiss the person we love.

Time is a strange thing.
But the question is never about the clock, the question is always about our perception. We can not influence time going by, we can just try to be in the exact moment and appreciate it for it will never come back. The only thing that stays with us forever is the memory of the past, often romanticized, often misty-eyed.
So lets all just take a moment of silence, a moment of pure being, a moment of perfection, where we worship ourselves, our surrounding and the exact situation we’re in. Feel which emotions are arising, when you’re really there, without any goal or attempt to be anywhere else. Don’t wait for the perfect moment to catch that freedom of simply being by accident, create that moment for yourself and manifest that feeling of peace and love deep down in your heart.